You Mean A Great Dill to Me

In Aziz Ansari's Modern Romance, it was quite interesting to see how love has revolutionized throughout time. He pointed out that many seniors in the rest home he visited ended up marrying an individual who was close to home which might not be the case now. With the advancement of educational opportunities, the sea where many fish are to be found, has expanded tremendously. We have all throughout our educational lives to find "the one" because 1. education is heavily stressed upon over family (arguably, that is) 2. women have the equal opportunity education which alleviates the pressure of their future depending on a man (independence, YAAAAS). Khaleesi being forced into marriage to Khal Drogo is a perfect example of society's use of courtship in the past to what it has revolutionized to now (she did, however, eventually fall in love with the dude)
On the other hand, it is also interesting to see that in this wider sea of suitors to pick from we have consequently become more "cold" and impersonal in our habits of confessing our love to someone. As Americans, we're know to be appear "cold" in human interactions especially in the way we greet each other* but it is significant that this "coldness" is appearing in all parts of the world with the initiation of romance through technology. Throughout my middle school days and early freshman year I fantasized about being swept off my feet from a boy who makes admiring looks from afar to the point where the looks weren't satisfying enough and eventually worked up the guts to ask me out. Well, that didn't happen. My first relationship was initiated on Facebook messenger and Snapchat. Maybe I dwell too much on the past and its chivalrous outlook on love, but I personally don't care for the idea of it being commonly acceptable to initiate and end a relationship through text or and other mode that is isn't personal. In the past, lovers used letters or their mode of communication and boy, were they troopers. Does that mean that the equivalent of sending a text to someone is actually having to send a crow in Game of Thrones? How inconvenient.

*in countries of Hispanic influence it is customary to greet someone warmly with a kiss on the cheek